…to offload my shit, here I am again. Sorry. Last post was in August 2015. I clearly felt I didn’t have the need to blog. Or maybe I didn’t want to? I can’t remember. Maybe life was so depressing that writing about how depressing it was made me feel guilty for whinging about my life when others have it so much worse, which then in turn made me more depressed. Who knows? Not me that’s for sure.
So, what’s new? Changed schools in January 2016. HLTA post. Every day but more money and not as much work as teaching. Did that for two terms. Got opportunity to teach as part of a job share at same school, so have been doing that since September. It’s been a fantastic year. I can honestly say, it’s been the best teaching year I’ve had since I qualified – which was some time ago! The team I’m working with are a lot of fun. And the kids have really made progress. Clearly, it was all too good to be true as I was informed 10 days ago that I wouldn’t be required as a teacher but could return to my HLTA post, because the teacher that was off on maternity leave wanted to return part time, and the school had filled her original post with a full time teacher… Not going to lie. It stung. I was upset. Very upset. I still am upset, but now I’m upset with a point to prove. Which makes me more focused and a little bit dangerous – this year’s maths results will be bloody brilliant.
Le job news coincided with a friend passing away. He’d been fighting cancer since his diagnosis back in 2014. And he’d fought hard. He was one of the best people I’ve ever been lucky enough to meet. He really was. My daughter adored him. I adored him. His wife, who is also a good friend, is understandably in pieces. Lost without him. She has many friends, but most have shrunk away in that “I don’t know how to help now” fog that occurs after a funeral. But, you don’t have to help. You just have to be there. To make time. To have conversations. If I’m brutally honest, I think it’s provided me with a distraction from the shite that is currently work. And the shite that is currently my personal life (that may well be a whole other post to be honest). And all the other shite that’s jumbled up in the eleventy billion thoughts whizzing round in my head.
I want to feel better. I don’t want to feel down. Or depressed. Or shite. I want to feel normal. Even happy? I’m not even sure I’m capable of that. Every time I think I am, something happens and I get knocked back down again. I guess the difference between depressed people and normal people is the way they deal with that knock down? I mean, how DO people deal with knock downs? Do you pretend it’s not happening? I mean, I’ve tried to look for the bright side re the job. I can list the bright side points: less to no work in the evenings, no responsibilities, less stress, potentially more sleep. But the flip of that? HLTA role is isolating – you’re not part of a team, and work very much on your own. Feeling isolated isn’t fun at the best of times – even less so when you’re prone to bouts of depression. Pays less. Which will add to the overall stress of life in general – again, this year I have literally just got my finances sorted. Sigh. And, your opinions/thoughts carry less weight, even if they are valid. Which shouldn’t matter I know, but for some reason it does. I guess it’s because you don’t feel as if you contribute to the overall picture.
See? It’s whinge city here. Pity party for one. Feel free to close the window or go someplace else. Because there’s more… A month or so ago, I hurt my back. I hurt it because I decided to go running after not done so for about 4 months. What I had neglected to take into consideration was the amount of weight I have put on. Which has made my chest considerably larger (you have my permission to laugh…). Anyhow, this losing combination basically fucked my back up. It’s nowhere near as bad as it was, but I have this constant ache whenever I am sitting or standing. And, thanks to the eleventy billion thoughts whizzing around my head, I have a real issue with food at the moment. As in I seem to have lost control of my eating. Which is a real problem, especially when you can’t exercise. So, the weight has continued to pile on.
This is not helping with the general feeling of shiteness. I literally hate myself. I hate my thoughts. I hate my body. I hate my apparent lack of control. I’m not overly keen on the way my life is panning out at the moment, but I lack the imagination to change it. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been in a far worse place than this. Where the only things I could watch on telly had to involve violence and murder and hatred. I’m currently watching Buffy. Which I love. Utterly love. The Walking Dead is another favourite too – but actually I guess both of those veer towards the Dark Side don’t they? Hhmmm, perhaps I’m not where I thought I was?!
Well, that was a barrel of laughs wasn’t it? Sorry if I’ve made anyone’s Sunday evening a little bit rubbish. There are some good bits. My relationship with my daughter has continued to flourish. It’s a little bit like a rollercoaster, but there are more good bits than there used to be. Which has made the angst of previous job decisions worthwhile. Has this been cathartic? A little bit I think. But there’s so much more…
It’ll have to wait.